Few days ago the world was shocked by the kind of social media emanating from Adaora Soludo, the newly married daughter of Anambra state Governor, Professor Charles Soludo.
In the now deleted post, she was blunt about her lack of time and interest to enter the kitchen to make food for her husband. She made it clear that if her husband would ever think it’s a duty she owes him to become a chef for his sake, that he should expect a divorce notice immediately, regardless of the infant age of their marriage.
She was talking about the advice she has been presented with, regards home management and how not to lose her husband to another woman out there. She said people have been telling her that if she fails to cook for her husband, that her man will be taken by another woman.
In what seems to be a vexed response from her and without mincing words, she made it clear that she’s ready to lose him to another woman if it’s about cooking for him.
The post has sparked massive reactions, with majority of those talking about the post has criticized her for the careless utterances she deployed in addressing such a sensitive matter. Without minding how her husband would have felt seeing such words from his wife.
In as much as no one is interested in pushing her into the kitchen to become a globally acclaimed chef for her husband, it is equally important she understands that she’s no longer a single woman, but a married woman with obligations and duties attached to it.
Even if she’s not interested in affairs of the kitchen, maybe because of her rich family background, it is not the best way to address such issue, not even in the public nor with such choice of inflammatory remarks. She’s a kind of daring her husband to do his worse and expect her aftermath decision.
Marriage is not a battle field, it is not a military training ground, for muscle flexing and all that. Because that’s obviously the mindset she’s wearing and it will do no good to that beautiful marriage of hers.
She could have sat down at home and discuss this with her husband, and I bet you, it will be more responsible, fruitful and mature if she had done so. What she just did is likened to her drawing a battle line with her husband, who on his part, might not have anything in mind, negatively.
But with such utterances, she’s already forcing him into harbouring that negative mindset that could be inimical to their marriage and happiness bounding their union.
On the other hand, I’m still wondering wondering if this could end up in the same shelf as content, just like we have seen on many occasions here, especially since Mark Zuckerberg decided to extend his monetization program to Nigeria.
We have seen a mad increase in engagement farming contents, deliberately put out there just to incite people’s emotions and anger, prompting thousands of reactions and mixed comments.
But be that as it may, it is very important that someone close to her talk some quality and quantity sense into her. She’s not at the helm of affairs in her father’s company or business, but she’s in a different world this time around, were the rules, the expectations and lifestyles are far different from what she used to know.
This marriage is barely a month old, and she should equally understand that all eyes are on the marriage, especially on herself.
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