Popular Nigerian pastor, author, public speaker, relationship coach, founder and leader of David Christian Center (DCC), Kingsley Okonkwo has left many people, especially newly married couples obviously confused with his recent message. Though he has always been known for his controversial and contradictory messages on the pulpit, but this seems to have thrown people in more confusion.
According to the man of God, he has warned new and young couples to desist from the idea of rushing into having children immediately after they got married. In a video which has since gone viral across social media platforms, he made it clear that child bearing is highly demanding and draining, as such, he’s not in support of young couples rushing to have kids almost immediately they got married.
Further throwing more light on this, he made it known that once you start having kids in marriages, everything changes automatically for the husband and wife. For instance, children don’t care if you the parents have money for food or that you yourself have had something to eat, and once the child/children starts such troubles, you must be disturbed and forced to find solution immediately.
On the other hand, he gave an instance were a child may wake up in the middle of the night and be crying inconsolably, keeping everyone awake, without minding that at day break you will be going to work. He advised couples to at least enjoy themselves for some time/years before having kids, to avoid loosing interest in each other as a result of incessant family issues.
Some people disagreed with the revered man of God, citing different reasons, such as that no parents knows the exact date/time when they will be financially comfortable as to be able to foot family bills without having headache over it. Some others argued that there’s never a time in marriage that footing bills has ever been easy, and that people should rather have number of kids they can easily take care of.
Further, some others argued that it is better for couples to have their kids as quick as possible, which will give them the space and opportunity to face their career and hustles without encountering cobwebs like issues along the journey. As waiting for an unknown time when you feel you would have made enough money is a time wasting adventure, because no one has such privilege of knowing when he or she will be made/successful. Also, that it is not even advisable to go into marriage without having a stable source of income, because it is those who do not have stable source of income that will have the time to listen to this kind of confusing message.
Well, marriage is a serious business, and before going into marriage ensure to have steady source of income just like most people have expressed, and remember that it is better you have your kids early enough, so that you will be fit enough while raising them.