It was so unfortunate when we heard about the collapse of the enviable and beautiful marriage of Davido’s Personal Logistics Manager, Israel DMW and Sheila Courage, few weeks ago. We eventually had to read a lot of revelations regarding factors leading up to the crash of that very marriage, of it ended in divided opinions; some heaping blames on Israel and some others pushing the blames to Sheila.
WhIle all these drama were going on, one thing keep disturbing my mind; how social media really contributed to the crash of that marriage! Unfortunately, it is just an irony of that has trailed the entire episode, as we have been preached, coached and brainwashed to accept and believe that social media is the devil you must use a machine gun to keep very far away from your beautiful marriage, not even to wish your partner a happy birthday on social media by making a post in that regard.
Then you should have asked yourself, how many times have we seen both of them share things about themselves on social, especially after their marriage? Well, you know what the answer is! Yes, there’s a limit to what and what you post on social media about your marriage/family, even before the advent of social media, married people have a limitation on what they bring to the public space about their marriage or family. So just understand that this thing is not just about social media, but about the general principle and formula guiding that holy union called marriage!
In all of these, you begin to wonder how these while thing works; how social media does crash marriages going by how we often present this matter. In other words, please stop putting blames on social media, but on your attitude towards your marriage. Yes, nothing will happen to your marriage should it be that both of you in that marriage are playing your roles well, not when your attitude towards your marriage is a total shit and mess, then you want the marriage be a role model. Well done sir/madam!
Just like we have often seen, most of these people focus so much on their social media contents, doing everything possible to please their followers and others, meanwhile same person has zero time to building his or her marriage, then tomorrow if the marriage crashes, you will join the gang of those that, “it’s because you are always bringing your marriage to social media that’s why it crashed”. Just like Israel and his estranged wife, Sheila, both have huge presence and influence on social media, but were not making their marriage their major contents on social media platforms. But it was that they do bring their marriage and love life to the social media space, their failed marriage would have immediately have a blame on that.
In other words, your marriage will work will always be as a result of your efforts and contributions towards building that marriage, and when you fail to do it right, then it will likely crash, and not caused by social media but by your conscious self!
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