The day you will know whether you truly have friends or not is the day you run into a serious situation, requiring urgent intervention. Then you can truly beat your chest and say, ‘yes I truly have people I can call friends any day any time’.
Unfortunately, most people here do not have such people who they can proudly call friends. This is mostly amongst the poor class, and you see over a thousand mobile numbers in their phone, same with Whatsapp and other social media platforms.
But do you know what? All these thousands of people they call friends, none can be of help to them in time of needs, even if it warrants for an urgent one thousand Naira. And for years, they have maintained such class of people as friends and have benefited nothing, directly or indirectly from them.
It is not even only about money, we talk about opportunities, business ideas, links, contacts, and more. Even when you share ideas with them, they are the first set of people to discourage you with the talk of the impossibilities in your ideas.
Start a business, they will never patronize you, rather they are the first set of people who will buy on credit. Ask them for the payment tomorrow, it turns to be that you are only insulting and embarrassing them because of a ‘Chicken money”. Yet, you have for years kept these sort of people as friends. Hmmm!
My dear, if you don’t know that it is time for you to sit up and reshuffle your friends list, then I want to personally tell you that it is time.
If it is possible delete and blacklist such contents are there of no benefit to your life. Start building new phase in your life with a set of new friends that will benefit your life and career. Also, get a new phone number and new private social media accounts, only those who have something to offer your life and career should be accommodated there.
You must not be friends with everyone who knows you, be it from family, your village or outsiders. This is not about being selfish, no, it is about adding value to your life and career and future.
Give priority to your own interest first, then overload your life with liabilities in the name of friends.
Take a look at the rich class and see the kind of fiends they keep. People who have something tangible to add to their business first, then if you ain’t doing so, sorry you will be locked out of their circle. Even your calls or text becomes a nuisance and an irritation to them.
That’s the type of life you need to maintain hence. Stop looking at anyone’s face any more. Turn your life into a moving train, only those with something to offer or otherwise, should be allowed into that train.
